We're pretty sure you are excited and terrified as the idea of planning your perfect day dominates your thoughts. We know this because we have been there ourselves planning our own big day. Sit back, take a breath, and know it doesn't have to be as stressful as you may think. Here are 5 helpful tips to get you on your way:
Tip #1 - Set Your budget
This is a tip that seems simple enough. Yet many times, brides will start making purchases and reserving vendors without a clue as to what she has to spend. This can lead to major disappointment in the event that there are just not enough funds to have your day the way you originally envisioned it.
Sit down with all of the parties that will be financing your big day, and set the maximum amount you will spend first. This way, you always know where you stand financially as you start planning out the details of the most important day of your life.
Tip #2 - Decide Who is Making Decisions
If you and your fiance will be footing the bill, it's ok to gently explain to your parents that while their opinions are valued, the two of you will be making the decisions solely together. If your parents are helping pay for your big day, it's still ok to gently explain to them that you and your fiance want to have final say on your wedding day preparations.
Does this mean that your parents will stop giving their opinions? No, absolutely not, as this day is almost as special to them as it is to you. However, it is you and your fiance's day!!! So in the end, only you two really know what will make it perfect for you.
Tip #3 - Include Your Fiance in the Planning Process
As a bride, it is very easy to get caught up in your vision for the perfect day. But remember, you are not marrying yourself!!! The idea that a wedding is for the bride is inaccurate and outdated. Many grooms want to have their opinions heard and even enjoy being part of the planning process. The trick is to find out what aspect of the wedding he wants to be most involved with.
Does this mean your fiance will want to attend every florist appointment? Probably not. However, this doesn't mean he doesn't have an opinion or care. Remember, you are marrying your fiance, not your girlfriends or mom.
Tip #4 - Know What's Important to You
Do you dislike flowers? Does your fiance hate traditional tuxedos? These are the types of questions you both need to ask yourselves once you've set your budget. This important because your budget should be allocated based on the importance of the area of your wedding. For example, if entertainment is critical to you, but you dislike flowers, than you should have more of your budget allocated to the entertainment than the flowers.
This aspect of your planning can be a balancing act. However, as long as you and your fiance work through this together, you will be fine.
Tip #5 - Hire a Professional
Wedding shows, Do It Yourself websites and blogs are great. However, none of these replace the value you get from having a professional wedding consultant there to ensure your day goes off without a hitch. And guess what? Most are more affordable than you think!
Look for planners in your area that offer a variety of packages and services. Good ones will be able to offer you the services you need the most within almost any budget. Don't look back and regret putting the most important day of your life in the hands of friends or family members that mean well, but simply don't have the expertise.
For more tips and help, feel free to visit our website (www.sylevents.com) or our social media pages!
Jose & Maria
SYL Event Planners